The topic of infidelity is once again blowing up social media – and many people are asking the same painful question: “Why did this happen to me?”
Azerbaijani clinical psychologist and CBT-therapist Fuad Asadov says the harsh truth is this: cheating almost never happens because of the partner. It happens because of the person who cheats.
“You can’t prevent cheating – it comes from the cheater’s own traits”
According to Asadov, the roots of infidelity sit deep inside the individual:
genetic tendencies (including RS3 gene variations),
hormonal factors linked to vasopressin,
social and psychological motives – from chasing validation to trying to feel young again.
“People don’t cheat because their partner did something wrong,” the psychologist explains. “They cheat because of who they are. And you simply cannot fully protect yourself from that.”
In other words: it’s not your fault – and it never was.
Your value doesn’t drop because someone else betrayed you
Asadov says many people fall into the trap of self-blame after infidelity – but this is a psychological illusion.
“Cheating has nothing to do with your beauty, worth, or desirability. Look at Shakira – one of the most admired women in the world – and she was betrayed too. That should tell you everything,” he said.
The psychologist adds that healthy communication, emotional intimacy and avoiding toxicity can help strengthen relationships – but even that doesn’t guarantee absolute protection from betrayal.
When professional help becomes necessary
After cheating, many people experience:
humiliation,
a sudden crash in self-esteem,
anxiety and obsessive thoughts,
emotional instability and confusion.
A psychologist can help rebuild inner stability and guide the person toward a clear decision about the future of the relationship – whether it’s healing together or walking away.
